Getting Back Into The Field After A Long Term Relationship

The end of a long term relationship can be a daunting thing, and not just because you’re no longer with the person you may have thought once was your life partner. No, it can also be daunting because you know you’ll have to get back out there eventually, and maybe find happiness with someone else, and you just don’t know how you’re going to approach this.

But in truth, it doesn’t have to be the big deal your head might be making it out to be. There are many ways you acclimate, and as long as you’re ready to, the points below will help you.

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Wait Until You’re Ready

If you’ve just come out of a long term relationship, make sure you’re ready to start dating again before you download an app or hit the bar. You want to start a new relationship off on a good footing, and you don’t want to miss or waste any good opportunities.

Take your time, don’t rush, and wait until you feel right. There’s no ticking clock in the background, and it doesn’t matter what friends or family members say to you. Make sure you do what’s right for you, and that you don’t mess yourself around.

Don’t Close Yourself Off

It’s been a long time since you were actively dating, and that might make you a bit hesitant or a bit awkward when it comes to talking to others in the dating scene. However, if you’re ready to start dating again, you need to be sure you’re being open and honest with your communication.

No good relationship is ever based on rushed feelings or a lie, and you certainly don’t want this from your first date in years!

Don’t rush into something like this – it takes a while to feel secure enough to talk about yourself. You might have to practice a little; there’s nothing wrong with pitching a few ideas to yourself in the mirror, or using a website like to get some lines out there and see how they hit.

Work Out What You’re Worried About

If you’re hesitant about the dating scene because there’s a few things you’re worried about (and not just because you’re not used to it), you need to work out these worries first. You need to pinpoint them, and make sure they’re unfounded, or work them out if they’re not. A lot of people are scared about dating when they’ve been out of the field for years, but it just takes a bit of self reflection.

Maybe you’re worried you’re too awkward now, or that you’re not attractive anymore because you’ve gotten older – these are both common worries, but they can be worked with, and you’ll be proved wrong once you get back out there. There are millions of people out there, and you could make a worthy connection with anyone.

The end of a long term relationship doesn’t have to be the end of your romantic life.

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Earle Dutton

Earle Dutton

Earle Dutton is the Chief Blogger and Editor of He founded in 2013 to provide information about LGBTQ friendly events of interest, and to support LGBTQ entertainers and supportive artists who visit our community. Earle is a successful businessman in the Pacific Northwest with a long history of support for and involvement in, the Northwest LGBTQ community. His personal interests include: music, theater, pets, culinary arts and technology.

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